Whats in a name?

I came across this article on my favorite news site Fark.com and it really saddened me as well as angered me. It concerns a man (in title only) who is getting married and has decided to take his wife’s name rather than she take his. Look people, I’m old fashioned and I have my reasons for being old fashioned. There are so many things that happen when you get married, mentally emotionally and spiritually and although I am no psychiatrist, or psychologist but I can tell when people are doing something monumentally wrong. I have posted the article here as well as my comments on it. There is also a link to the article so that you can read the reactions from others.

http://www.momlogic.com/2009/07/i_took_my_wifes_last_name.php

My comments: "To tell the truth I really feel sorry for your marriage. The act of taking the name of the husband is much more than just giving up your name. It symbolizes that you are putting your trust in the man that you are going to spend the rest of your life with. You are leaving the protection of your father’s house and coming under the protection of a husband who will provide for your needs physically, mentally, and spiritually. When you take the name of your wife you are telling her that you don’t really care for her enough to take on that burden. She has to look toward her own well being and frankly it’s this type of mentality between husbands and wives that make for short marriages. In my view a woman who doesn’t take her husband’s name is not committing to the marriage and a man who doesn’t demand that the wife take his name has no intention of staying with her when things start to get rough. People are not taking marriage seriously anymore. It was my understanding that women wanted strong men who could provide and protect them and their children. if you can’t be proud enough of your husband to take his name then maybe you shouldn’t be marrying him, and if your forcing him to take your name then, ladies, you deserve the (wo)man you get. As for a man changing his name to that of his wife’s I can only say that you dishonor you fathers and entire family who had hoped to raise you to be a real man. Stand up, be a MAN, and show some pride in yourself and show your soon to be wife that there is something in you to be proud of."